When we do not face our emotional baggage, it manifests in our bodies. So, our bodies and our emotions will tell us the issues to look at.
Where do you hurt? What Chakra is associated with that pain or condition?
A client had experienced an altercation with a person. She kept telling me that her stomach hurt. I told her that her stomach was related to Solar Plexus Chakra, and that she felt an ache in her stomach because this situation made her feel powerless. The Solar Plexus relate to willpower and being in your power. Once she became aware of this, her stomach stopped hurting.
It is my experience, that all negative emotions result from feeling a lack of power.
I have had many clients say that they have a hard time dealing with a certain person. I bring to their attention that they feel this way only because they lose their power when dealing with this person. Then I ask, what would make you feel empowered or in control of the situation?
There are many ways that we can take our power back from another person or situation. If someone calls us on the phone and keeps pushing our buttons, we can either limit our conversation to say, ten minutes, or limit the conversation to only certain subjects that do not irritate us, or we can just stop talking to them altogether.
When we can define our boundaries, we start gaining our personal power.
Now, another way of looking at this is when someone pushes your buttons, ask yourself, “Who does this person remind me of?”
I had a client whom I had a difficult time dealing with. Whatever I said or did, did not satisfy her. I just couldn’t make her happy.
I started getting very irritated with her and vowed that I would never see her again.
When I asked myself, “Who did she remind me of?”, I thought, “Oh my God, she acted just like my mother.” My mother was very critical of me. Either I couldn’t do anything right, or I could definitely do it better.
This client actually gave me a gift by bringing this belief to my attention. I promptly worked on releasing these thoughts about myself.
Four months later, this client called for another session. I thought to myself, “I know I decided to not take her back, but as an experiment, I would take her back to see if the work I had done would result in a different experience. Sure enough, she was not at all critical and did not complain. But was very happy…and so was I. At that point, I made the connection between how we feel about ourselves (our belief system), and what experience we choose to bring to us.
Thoughts are energy. When we believe a “truth” about who we are (thought-energy), we attract a situation that proves our belief to be true.
If we can change that belief to a more positive one, we can change our experience to a more favorable one.
By doing these two things, (creating boundaries and changing old negative beliefs), we are able to take back our power and stay in our power.